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There’s no reason to communicate anymore after a breakup, especially if it was a painful one. No need to catch up or see if his annoying co-worker is still annoying. Curiosity killed the cat, girl! Keep moving forward and swipe to the left, to the left (Beyonce voice).
That means he hasn’t seen your profile yet and now you’re left waiting to see if he’ll match with you later on. We both know you’re gonna be in your feelings if he doesn’t match with you. Many guys say they blindly swipe right on everyone so now you’re thinking he purposely did not match with you if you never match. I’m cringing just thinking about it PLEASE!
Or he swipes right on you later on just British postimyynti morsiamet paras sivusto to see if you swiped right and now he has the satisfaction of knowing you swiped on him. Ew. No. If he’s a petty bitch, he may even unmatch you right after matching so you’ll never know he also swiped right. Conclusion. Swiping on your ex = hurt feelings.
You guys match and now you’re thinking “should I message him??” Stop it right now. Never put yourself in a position to be left on read by an ex or really any man for that matter. There’s literally never a reason to do that. It’s embarrassing.
So, you don’t reach out to him and he messages you first. You have an awkward conversation about how you are before it fizzles out leaving you confused or annoyed or sad. Feeling bad is not worth that 7-message exchange!
Now, what I’m assuming is your best case scenario…he reaches out and suggests you guys meet up or he tells you that he misses you. All I’m gonna say is that the perfect scenario you have going in your head is very, very unlikely to happen. You know boys can never get it right! That’s why you guys aren’t together anymore.
Truthfully, there is really no point in matching with an ex unless you’re really trying to get back together with him. And is that really what you wanna do?
Breakups are a complicated subject and relationships end for so many different reasons. But I’m gonna assume that you guys just were not good for each other at the end of the day. That said, don’t open yourself up to be hurt by the same guy again. Giving him access to you, even on a dating app, is NOT the move, babe.
Judge his profile pics and his poorly written bio, swipe left and keep it pushing. Don’t go back to Mr. Wrong when you’re trying to find Mr. Right!
The swiping feature has always existed on the apps, but something new is a counter that informs you how many people have already swiped right for you. That’s validation without ever having to match! For example, I have 89 potential matches – 89 people are interested in me! (I inflated that number. Should I have inflated it higher?!)
This also happened to be an emotionally complicated week for me (more dumb excuses) including what did I want? Did I really know what I want? Did I need to know what I want? What am I even talking about?
I know some people might disagree with me, but I don’t really think it’s “ghosting” if you haven’t met up/taken the connection beyond the app. You said yourself that the conversation ended pretty quickly in both instances. There are a million possible reasons she stopped replying. Some people are on multiple apps or also meeting people IRL. Some people just ebb and flow in the time and energy they give to Tinder. Ultimately, she doesn’t owe you an explanation. And ultimately, it’s a futile mission to try to read her mind. In fact, I’m avoiding any definitive statements about what her behavior means, because I think it could be any number of things, but more importantly, I think it doesn’t even really matter when it comes to you and your life. I really, truly think you’re better off letting go of her. Her pattern likely has to do with her own stuff and nothing to do with you.
Don’t fail the test by opening up an avenue for your lame ex to come back into your life. Things didn’t work out for a reason and I’m a firm believer of not playing with fire.
