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Whether they were in a healthy relationship or not, there tends to be one major excuse someone would have for getting with an affair partner, “They Were Not Satisfying My Needs.”
There are many reasons why a betrayed partner may not be able to fulfill the sexual desires of their primary partner:
However, while this may explain why some people cheat, it isn’t always the reason. If there were relationship issues, they would be a cause for alarm in all relationship forms. After all, there are times when we all have dry periods when it comes to sex. And while a lack of a sexual relationship has the potential to lead to cheating it is obviously not the case.
The fact that the cheating did happen could definitely mean that there are some form of relationship issues. However, there are people with affair partners who are, or say they are perfectly happy with their primary partner.
Of course, the issues may still exist but they more than likely have more to do with the cheating partner than the betrayed partner. More often than not those who cheat tend to possess narcissistic traits, and will often use whatever means they have to seek validation from any source they can get it from.
A narcissist is commonly described as a person with a mental health condition that makes them hold an unreasonably high sense of importance. However, you do not have to be clinically labeled as a narcissist to have any narcissistic traits.
When it comes to some people’s feelings, they need constant validation and what some may view as worship even. Cheating here comes from not getting enough worship, developing low self-esteem, and going to an affair partner in order to seek validation.
With that, a relationship may have problems, but the issues may not always lie with the person being cheated on.
One of the most common lies surrounding cheating is entering an affair with someone due to falling out of love. But the truth is this is normally not the case.
A person who cheats may still be very much in love with their partner. However, they may have other reasons to cheat on their partners, like falling in love with multiple people or wanting the thrill of sex with another person. Just because someone cheats does not always mean they don’t love their partner anymore.
Your partner may not have planned to cheat. It may have just happened. Alcohol, drugs, and other factors can lead to lost inhibitions and a lack of self-control.
Of course, unplanned cheating doesn’t hurt any less than planned cheating. A common misunderstanding makes people believe that all forms of cheating are preplanned.
In some cases, cheating is used as a way to control others. Those with narcissistic traits may use their own infidelity to control their partner. If you don’t do exactly what they want, they will weave a tale of lies as they cheat. In this case, they do it to control you by convincing you that their cheating was your fault.
Aside from sexual intercourse, infidelity can have other reasons and forms. Let’s look at 3 other kinds of cheating that somebody might see from a person and the psychology behind these forms of infidelity.
